Then I guess where we diverge is one what constitutes reasonable punishment - I don't believe corporal punishment is pretty much ever reasonable (although I would be curious to know your feelings on corporal punishment in schools? Not a trap, genuinely curious).Anakin McFly wrote:What Gendo said. I agree with the other arguments, although I don't think "hitting someone without their consent is recognised as assault" applies in the case of (reasonable) punishment, any more than prisons should be abolished on the basis that locking someone up in a room would be recognised as abuse. There's a difference between hitting as punishment (where the person knew beforehand that if they did this bad thing they would be hit), vs hitting as unasked for assault.
If I ever have children I probably wouldn't hit them for the reasons aels laid out, but when done infrequently and in a responsible manner I wouldn't consider it abuse, because a parent lightly smacking a child on the bum for telling lies is very, very different from a parent regularly whipping their child with a belt. It's the equating of the two that bothers me, not the view that it may be better not to physically punish your child.
I grew up in a house with physical violence so I wouldn't ever say that mild smacking is on a par with serious domestic abuse, but they both involve physical punishment as a means of exercising control and it gives me the squirmies on a visceral level.