Seriously, what's the deal with film nudity and sex-simulation. You are really putting a strange woman's breasts in your mouth for the sake of a film? While you've got a wife and kids at home? I wonder how Jennifer Garner feels about that.
I've never been able to wrap my head around how these scenes are supposed to be "professionally shot". There's just so much potential for inappropriateness and exploitation. I just don't understand. Kissing is one thing. That's a form of intimacy that is generally pretty acceptable for actors to perform. And they tend to use film tricks, like not using tongue, but making it look like you are(though I've seen french kissing scenes where tongue is is clearly being used). And you aren't going to get an R rating from a kissing scene. But sucking on a nipple is a whole different level of intimacy. What the hell does professional even mean in that context(I know what it technically means...not being a creep...not lingering/staring...not trying to get your rocks off...following the choreography and being as clinical as possible..etc)? And it occurred to me that, while there are plenty of nude scenes and sex scenes in movies, you don't often seen fondling of breasts/putting breasts in mouths. A lot of kissing and fake humping...but fondling of breasts seems borderline pornographic to me. I know this sounds like I'm a prude, but I'm not at all. I just can't wrap my head around how such a thing could ever be professional in mainstream. I find it difficult to put myself in the actor's shoes. 'Cause I'm watching it and my internal reaction is "that's fucking hot"...so it's hard for me to imagine how a straight man would be "professional" about that. Even with all the planning, the rehearsals/choreography, with a bunch of people in the room...at the end of it, you are still putting a strange woman's intimate parts in your mouth...and that's gotta be very super awkward. Do you just have an out-of-body experience or something(like I did when a stripper made me put one of her breasts in her mouth when I was 18...like, I still question if that really happened)?
I know that porn actors obviously do much more than that, and that there are still professional standards. But, the difference to me is that porn actors tend to be pretty sexually open. Many of them are in open relationships, and are comfortable with their partners sleeping with other people. But, I tend to think of mainstream actors as being more sexually conventional. So, I am just baffled when they shoot these kinds of scenes. How do they do it, and how does their partner feel about it.
And while big, mainstream films tend to be very clinical and "professional" about how they go about shooting such scenes, I've heard horror stories about sex scenes from more low-budget, amateur films. I heard one actress say that a guy once ejaculated on her stomach during a sex scene.
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Isn't that really disturbing? She just wiped if off and pretended it never happened.One disturbing thing I've noticed about female nudity in film and tv is the potential exploitation of power. You'll notice that a vast majority of nudity is done by unknown actresses, extras, or actresses still on the rise. You have powerful actresses who seem to love doing nudity(like Kate Winslet), but it seems most of the nudity is done by not so powerful actresses. And, when they became for famous, and are not starving actresses, some choose to stop doing nudity because they have more options available...and can actually fight for no or less nudity in a scene that previously required it. Because when you don't have much power/demand, you know you are easily replaced by someone else willing to do nudity. Daenerys(or whatever her name is) from game of thrones is an example of this. She did nudity in the first season, then in the next season said she would not do it anymore. I find that whole dynamic deeply disturbing. Not to mention the fact that a lot of nudity seems to serve no other purpose but to titillate(no pun intended).
