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I'm in a weird state of limbo...

Posted: Wed May 27, 2015 10:18 pm
by OpiateOfTheMasses
I've accepted a verbal job offer from another company and am waiting for the contract to come through so I can read it, sign it and send it back at which point I will have "officially" have accepted the job and can resign from my current job.

They've told me it'll take them a few days (four or five) to get the paperwork sorted out and across to me, which isn't too unreasonable I suppose. But in the interim, I can't say anything to anyone at work and I have to go along to planning meetings and things like that and make long term proposals and accept ownership for shit that's not even going to materialise for six months.

It's very weird and more than a little frustrating when all I really want to do is tell them I'm leaving and that it's all going to be their problem soon so try not to bother me with it thank-you-very-much.

(I just wanted to get that off my chest - thanks!)

Re: I'm in a weird state of limbo...

Posted: Wed May 27, 2015 10:55 pm
by sikax
You're legally bound to carry on like that? Or you simply feel it's necessary?

Re: I'm in a weird state of limbo...

Posted: Wed May 27, 2015 11:46 pm
by Gendo
It sounds to me like until he officially accepts the new job, he shouldn't say anything to his current company because there's always a chance the new job won't pan out, as the offer isn't 100% official.

Same basic thing that happens whenever you start to interview for a new job, really.

Re: I'm in a weird state of limbo...

Posted: Thu May 28, 2015 12:39 am
by sikax
I agree he shouldn't but it isn't clear if that's like a stern boundary imposed by the new company or a personal decision.

Re: I'm in a weird state of limbo...

Posted: Thu May 28, 2015 6:19 am
by OpiateOfTheMasses
I'm not obliged to not say anything, but caution tells me not say anything until it's fully confirmed in case there's some last minute twist...

Re: I'm in a weird state of limbo...

Posted: Thu May 28, 2015 5:40 pm
by sikax
Good idea. Sucks they have to keep you waiting like that.

Re: I'm in a weird state of limbo...

Posted: Thu May 28, 2015 9:21 pm
by OpiateOfTheMasses
I've received the confirmation paperwork and it's all in order (it was surprising quick coming through)... So I'm drafting my resignation letter!

Re: I'm in a weird state of limbo...

Posted: Fri May 29, 2015 2:10 am
by BruceSmith78
Congratulations then!

Re: I'm in a weird state of limbo...

Posted: Thu Aug 20, 2015 10:45 pm
by OpiateOfTheMasses
Well it's my last day of work at my "old" job tomorrow. And I really can't be arsed with any of it, but there's that nagging sense of duty I suppose (for want of a better word) that I have to go in and do the rounds and then go to the pub with all of them after work when really I couldn't care less if I never see any of them again.

It does mean that I'll be starting my new job on Monday and that will entail a lot of travelling to their head office for the first month or so, I possibly won't be on here as much and the wife and kids aren't too pleased that I'll be away a lot too. But it's only for a short period then it'll calm down.

(Until I get my feet under the table properly at the new place I still feel like I'm in a state of limbo of sorts)

Re: I'm in a weird state of limbo...

Posted: Fri Aug 21, 2015 2:35 pm
by aels
[love4] I hope everything goes okay at the new job.

Re: I'm in a weird state of limbo...

Posted: Fri Aug 21, 2015 10:29 pm
by OpiateOfTheMasses
Thanks!

I've finished at the old place now. Just looking forward to Monday morning now... [smile]

Re: I'm in a weird state of limbo...

Posted: Fri Aug 21, 2015 10:30 pm
by aels
My colleague starts his new job on Monday. It's going to be really weird without him there. Plus he's the only one who knows how to get into the bank account. Womp womp.

Re: I'm in a weird state of limbo...

Posted: Fri Aug 21, 2015 10:38 pm
by OpiateOfTheMasses
Yeah... good handover's are important. I had to work a three month notice period and my boss was so obsessed with getting me to finish off a whole bunch of work that was meant to be done later in the year that he decided that was more important than me handing over any of my critical knowledge to any of my colleagues.

I tried to warn him against this strategy but he was insistent and ultimately he's paying for my time, so it makes no difference to me...

...but they're going to be fucked in about a month's time.

Oh well. Not my problem!

Re: I'm in a weird state of limbo...

Posted: Fri Aug 21, 2015 10:44 pm
by aels
I told this guy he couldn't leave before he had taught me all the stuff but he is leaving anyway because he is Judas Iscariot and also I am v. drunk right now.

Re: I'm in a weird state of limbo...

Posted: Fri Aug 21, 2015 10:46 pm
by OpiateOfTheMasses
Are you drunk 'cos he's leaving or is that completely unrelated?

Re: I'm in a weird state of limbo...

Posted: Fri Aug 21, 2015 10:50 pm
by aels
Unrelated. We had a work event and no one turned up and also my boss's friend/occasional work partner kept hitting on me and I was uncomfortable and then my boss and her ex had a fight in a car park and I drank 6 glasses f wine because I am uncomfortable and sad. I was sad that my friend is quitting but he's emotionally dead inside and won't let me hug him so it is a waste of feelings.

Re: I'm in a weird state of limbo...

Posted: Fri Aug 21, 2015 10:57 pm
by OpiateOfTheMasses
Sounds a bit like my leaving do. Except I was the bloke leaving and you were some of my colleagues accusing me of being "emotionally dead" because I wasn't getting upset or sad. I even had one of the younger ladies in my department drowning her sorrows a bit too enthusiastically! I did let her hug me in the end as she was very insistent but I did keep it short.

(Although I didn't notice anyone hitting on anyone else)

It's funny how these things repeat themselves, isn't it?

Re: I'm in a weird state of limbo...

Posted: Fri Aug 21, 2015 11:04 pm
by aels
He is emotionally dead, though, by his own admission. I should set up a support group for you and him and Azzy and you can all be stoic and uncomfortable together.

Re: I'm in a weird state of limbo...

Posted: Fri Aug 21, 2015 11:06 pm
by OpiateOfTheMasses
LOL! That sounds like it might be worth looking into...

Re: I'm in a weird state of limbo...

Posted: Fri Aug 21, 2015 11:09 pm
by aels
And I'll pop out of a broom cupboard and hug you when you least expect it. I have enough feelings for everyone.

Re: I'm in a weird state of limbo...

Posted: Sat Aug 22, 2015 1:03 am
by Dr_Liszt
I'm either emotionally dead or a crying tear bag. There's no in between with me. It sucks. [sad]

Re: I'm in a weird state of limbo...

Posted: Sat Aug 22, 2015 7:35 pm
by Blade Azaezel
A support group is for discussing feelings. As we don't have any, it would just be an uncomfortable hour as we loathe one another for the time we're being forced to waste [none]

Re: I'm in a weird state of limbo...

Posted: Sat Aug 22, 2015 7:36 pm
by Blade Azaezel
Dr_Liszt wrote:I'm either emotionally dead or a crying tear bag. There's no in between with me. It sucks. [sad]
Typical woman tbh [none]

Re: I'm in a weird state of limbo...

Posted: Sat Aug 22, 2015 9:28 pm
by aels
Blade Azaezel wrote:A support group is for discussing feelings. As we don't have any, it would just be an uncomfortable hour as we loathe one another for the time we're being forced to waste [none]
That's why I'm making you do it.

Re: I'm in a weird state of limbo...

Posted: Sat Aug 22, 2015 9:43 pm
by OpiateOfTheMasses
aels wrote:
Blade Azaezel wrote:A support group is for discussing feelings. As we don't have any, it would just be an uncomfortable hour as we loathe one another for the time we're being forced to waste [none]
That's why I'm making you do it.
That's good female "logic". [none]