Arguing with your significant other
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Arguing with your significant other
So, if you have an argument with your SO and you both go to bed angry...then the next day, while there's still tension, they say "is the rest of the day going to be like this?"...are they not sort of implying that it is your responsibility to "fix" the tension and end the fight? Does that framing not subtly imply that fixing the problem is dependent on you?
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Re: Arguing with your significant other
I'd think it means they're ready to move past it, so they either want to hash it out or let it go so they won't feel like they're walking on egg shells all day.
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Re: Arguing with your significant other
Bitches really do be crazy.
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Yeah, I get that what is wanted is to deal with it and move on, but doesn't the phrasing suggest that I'm the one with the power/responsibility to end it? For more context, the tone was somewhat antagonistic/accusatory...and it isn't a one-time occurrence.BruceSmith78 wrote:I'd think it means they're ready to move past it, so they either want to hash it out or let it go so they won't feel like they're walking on egg shells all day.
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Basically it's your fault they argued in the first place, you're in the wrong and as soon as you suck it up and admit that it's all your fault, she'll let it slide and speak to you again...been there.
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That saying feels a bit accurate right about now.Blade Azaezel wrote:Bitches really do be crazy.
Actually, I'm the one feeling like I'm crazy and second-guessing my instincts.
Re: Arguing with your significant other
She's saying 'You know what you did wrong and as soon as you stop doing it, we can let this go'
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The tone would make a difference, but ordinarily I wouldn't read anything more into it than, "being mad at each other sucks, so I'm ready to move on if you are." I suck at relationship head games and psychological warfare, though. I've spent most of my adult life single.Cassius Clay wrote:Yeah, I get that what is wanted is to deal with it and move on, but doesn't the phrasing suggest that I'm the one with the power/responsibility to end it? For more context, the tone was somewhat antagonistic/accusatory...and it isn't a one-time occurrence.BruceSmith78 wrote:I'd think it means they're ready to move past it, so they either want to hash it out or let it go so they won't feel like they're walking on egg shells all day.
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Re: Arguing with your significant other
After more than 10 years of marriage I've learnt that it means regardless of how wrong she was I need to apologise because she will never let it go.
Life's too short and women are too crazy, so what are you going to do?
Life's too short and women are too crazy, so what are you going to do?
You can't make everyone happy. You are not pizza.
Re: Arguing with your significant other
It is dependent on you. She can't fix things without your help.
START HELPING!!!
START HELPING!!!
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Re: Arguing with your significant other
If someone said that to me I'd say the framing was not-so-subtly implying that I AM the problem. Not cool either way.Cassius Clay wrote:So, if you have an argument with your SO and you both go to bed angry...then the next day, while there's still tension, they say "is the rest of the day going to be like this?"...are they not sort of implying that it is your responsibility to "fix" the tension and end the fight? Does that framing not subtly imply that fixing the problem is dependent on you?