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Arguing with your significant other
Posted: Sun Mar 15, 2015 9:34 pm
by Cassius Clay
So, if you have an argument with your SO and you both go to bed angry...then the next day, while there's still tension, they say "is the rest of the day going to be like this?"...are they not sort of implying that it is your responsibility to "fix" the tension and end the fight? Does that framing not subtly imply that fixing the problem is dependent on you?
Re: Arguing with your significant other
Posted: Sun Mar 15, 2015 9:41 pm
by BruceSmith78
I'd think it means they're ready to move past it, so they either want to hash it out or let it go so they won't feel like they're walking on egg shells all day.
Re: Arguing with your significant other
Posted: Sun Mar 15, 2015 9:47 pm
by Blade Azaezel
Bitches really do be crazy.
Re: Arguing with your significant other
Posted: Sun Mar 15, 2015 9:54 pm
by Cassius Clay
BruceSmith78 wrote:I'd think it means they're ready to move past it, so they either want to hash it out or let it go so they won't feel like they're walking on egg shells all day.
Yeah, I get that what is wanted is to deal with it and move on, but doesn't the phrasing suggest that I'm the one with the power/responsibility to end it? For more context, the tone was somewhat antagonistic/accusatory...and it isn't a one-time occurrence.
Re: Arguing with your significant other
Posted: Sun Mar 15, 2015 9:56 pm
by Blade Azaezel
Basically it's your fault they argued in the first place, you're in the wrong and as soon as you suck it up and admit that it's all your fault, she'll let it slide and speak to you again...been there.
Re: Arguing with your significant other
Posted: Sun Mar 15, 2015 9:57 pm
by Cassius Clay
Blade Azaezel wrote:Bitches really do be crazy.
That saying feels a bit accurate right about now.
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Actually, I'm the one feeling like I'm crazy and second-guessing my instincts.
Re: Arguing with your significant other
Posted: Sun Mar 15, 2015 10:10 pm
by aels
She's saying 'You know what you did wrong and as soon as you stop doing it, we can let this go'
Re: Arguing with your significant other
Posted: Sun Mar 15, 2015 10:42 pm
by BruceSmith78
Cassius Clay wrote:BruceSmith78 wrote:I'd think it means they're ready to move past it, so they either want to hash it out or let it go so they won't feel like they're walking on egg shells all day.
Yeah, I get that what is wanted is to deal with it and move on, but doesn't the phrasing suggest that I'm the one with the power/responsibility to end it? For more context, the tone was somewhat antagonistic/accusatory...and it isn't a one-time occurrence.
The tone would make a difference, but ordinarily I wouldn't read anything more into it than, "being mad at each other sucks, so I'm ready to move on if you are." I suck at relationship head games and psychological warfare, though. I've spent most of my adult life single.
Re: Arguing with your significant other
Posted: Sun Mar 15, 2015 11:34 pm
by OpiateOfTheMasses
After more than 10 years of marriage I've learnt that it means regardless of how wrong she was I need to apologise because she will never let it go.
Life's too short and women are too crazy, so what are you going to do?
Re: Arguing with your significant other
Posted: Mon Mar 16, 2015 12:03 am
by ultron-2
It is dependent on you. She can't fix things without your help.
START HELPING!!!
Re: Arguing with your significant other
Posted: Wed Mar 18, 2015 6:00 pm
by Ptolemy_Banana
Cassius Clay wrote:So, if you have an argument with your SO and you both go to bed angry...then the next day, while there's still tension, they say "is the rest of the day going to be like this?"...are they not sort of implying that it is your responsibility to "fix" the tension and end the fight? Does that framing not subtly imply that fixing the problem is dependent on you?
If someone said that to me I'd say the framing was not-so-subtly implying that I AM the problem. Not cool either way.